Success and Focus

​Things that I'm NOT good at:

Networking
Keeping in touch with people
Trying new things
Being social in a large group, or sometimes even at all

Can you relate to any of these?

​I will be the first to admit that my personality flaws do not allow me to be a likely candidate for success. I struggle with this because I want to be doing everything and be good at everything.

We live in a strange society where we see things on social media and think WE have to be good at everything to have real success. We see people that, 'have it all,' and think, they are amazing! Why can't I be like that? I want to be good at everything! And then we try and fail and think there is something wrong with us.

But here's the thing. There is always going to be something that you aren't good at, and there is nothing wrong with you. You are simply a human being and most of the time it's not physically possible to do all the things.

Ok, so I give up the idea of having it all. I realize I'm not good at everything but I still want to be successful-then what?

Focus on what you ARE good at, and find others to help you do what they are good at.

The only reason that I have been even mildly successful is because I've learned to surround myself with people who are good at the things that I am not. I have been lucky enough to have worked with some incredibly talented people over the years, and it's mostly due to them that I was able to get so far in my career.

I know I can't do things on my own, I'm not a one-hit-wonder. We need each other. I believe we are divinely designed with flaws to learn how to overcome them - with the help of others.

So what is it that you are good at? That's where you start.

I may never be good at networking or being social. But I can be good at networking with a few of the right people who are great at networking. I can befriend a few people who are more social than I am. Those seem like achievable goals.

So focus on your strengths. Identify your weak points and be ok with knowing you don't have to be good at everything. Surround yourself with people who can do what you can't. Give yourself a break from trying to do it all. Success will come in time.